Game of L♥ve

Now we’re talkin’ about Love.

Let’s face it. Love is one of the most widely discussed among teenagers like us. Well, why not, chokonut? This is definitely interesting. We could all relate into this.

No one wouldn’t possibly feel it, whether love of the family, love for the nation…but most especially, the ‘romantic love’ factor. The ‘kilig moments’ ‘HHWW’ are such a nice experience. Especially the feeling that somebody cares for you.

We yearn for it, we search for it… LOVE. This is the Game of L♥ve.

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First burst: Attraction. Crush-hush. Hmm there’s something…



The first thing we notice to a person is his/her physical appearance. The first time he/she caught your eyes, you can’t stop thinking about him/her! This is the time when we feel so dumbstruck and out of ourselves wherever or whenever we see that ‘special one’. By this time, we yearn to see that person more and more, thinkin’ about him/her everytime, and making a move for him/her to notice you too!

I don’t believe in love at first sight but I do believe in crush at first sight, of course. Most of the head-turners are vavavoom gorgeous ladies, pretty-faced girlies, and drop-dead appealing guys. But let’s remember that beauty is only skin deep. Wenkz! Overused?

Well, let me tell you this: It’s on the outside that attracts but what’s on the inside makes us stay. When you will spend sometime together with that person and knowing more about him/her inside and out, that’s the time that you would value and appreciate the person more, and who knows, it might turn-out to something better.

But that’s not only the case. Sometimes, that person could be our companion or someone who we see as a friend. Then, you thought your guy-friend/girl-friend will stay as is, as a pal, as an advice-giver when you’re down, a shoulder to lean on when you cry. Then with a snap, you see him/her more special than usual, you could see the sparks on their eyes, the sweetness of their smile, and one day you’ll wake-up realizing you feel something deeper, something more special… and eventually, the friendship or closeness might turn into something deeper, and better

…hoping that his/her feelings would be mutual. :)

"Sometimes your nearness takes my breath away; and all the things I want to say can find no voice. Then, in silence, I can only hope my eyes will speak my heart."
-Robert Sexton

"Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice but falling in love with you I had no control over."
-unknown

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Second kiligness: Mutual Understanding (or MisUnderstanding?!)



In more conservative way, this stage could also be the ‘courtship period’. But there is still a big difference between M.U. and courtship… M.U. entails NO commitment, NO strings attached, but the feeling is mutual, shared and reciprocated. In courtship, the man is still striving to achieve the sweet ‘yes’ of his special someone, or the other way around, hahaha! And one thing more, courtship would mostly and eventually end up as being lovers and having a commitment to one another. But, M.U. helps you know each other deeper and is also a good sign that you two will also end up together, but of course if only you’re both willing to commit in a relationship.

If I would make a comparison, Live-in: Wedding ; M.U.: Taken
Hahaha!

Even though this “status” may seem so ‘safe’ well, of course you won’t be lying to your parents of having any boyfriend/girlfriend, and the ‘kilig’ factor is very high, but remember, and always remember that there’s NO commitment, and anytime of the day he/she could just walk-away and find another. And the worst part of it? You have NO rights in him/her. Poor dude.

Anyway, about the MisUnderstanding. Well that’s just one of my observation. Some Mis-understood being an M.U. as Mag-Un este Mag-On na. Hahaha! A big slap on the face if you’re just wishin’ on a wishing star dear. But, atleast, you know he/she feels the same way for you too, right?

"I love you, not only for what you are, But for what I am when I am with you."
-Roy Croft

"Love is the enchanted dawn of every heart."
-Alphonse Marie de la Martine

"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction."
-Antoine de Saint-Exupery


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Third: TAKEN… in LOVE.



Here’s the peak! Finally! Mag-on, Mag-jowa, Mag-Hunnie-bunnie Sweetie Pie na kayo! The feeling is intense, the emotions are unexplainable. The love is in the state of passion, and kiligness factor is at peak, and everything seems so nice… so pleasant… so PERFECT. You see the world differently, and it feels like heaven when you’re with him/her.

You find each other PERFECT. La la la…LOVE. The feeling is good. A shoulder to lean on, a hand to hold… You know someone loves you and cares for you. Your heart flutters for those simple surprises and gifts. Simple act of gestures uplifts you.

You can't even concentrate and focus more on anything else... you can't sleep well... you always found yourself daydreaming. :)

Monthsary, Anniversary… blah blah. You’ll treasure it all. The memorable dates, holding hands, soft lips, unforgettable lines, expressive flowers, sweet chocolates, and other paraphernalias are all-around. At Valentine’s, you ain’t bored, and Christmas ain’t cold. You feel complete. Well, what more could I say?

What more could you ask for?

"When you are in Love you can't fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams."
-Dr Seuss

I have loved to the point of madness;
That which is called madness,
That which to me,
Is the only sensible way to love.
-F. Sagan

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Fourth: BROKEN… frown and down



Here it goes. Well, change is inevitable and nothing’s permanent... but all you knew you’re relationship is different, you've been dreaming for it to stay until the end of time. You thought it was PERFECT. You’re hella wrong.

Pain comes with love, and love comes with pain. So always be ready.

The end came, the show is over, game over. In this period of time, LOVE will be out of your vocabulary. Hurt. Pain. Bitter. Those words are like tattoos embedded on your heart, especially if you didn’t have a ‘healthy break-up’ with the him/her, or should I say, EX. Now here’s the heartache, wet pillows, and you’re depressed as ever. Chocolates? Alcohol? Shopping? Still doesn’t ease the pain. Feels like everything’s ruined. Hurts like hell. Damn Hell.

Lucky for you if you survive break-up easily, or should I say, effortlessly, carelessly... Damn you, if that’s the case. Hahaha! Just Kidding.

Of course, talk it out properly with him/her if things aren’t still settled for the both of you. Talk it out, and think it over. Fix things-up, if possible, for the both of you (or more, if there are other parties involved) Swallow your pride. Bitterness must be thrown away. Yes time heals but not really if you don’t help yourself to be healed.

How could you break past a break-up if there’s no formal closure, right? And it also helps to ease the pain and it unloads your burden.

"Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, Pain of love lasts a lifetime."
-Bette Davis

"You will never know true happiness
until you have truly loved,
and you will never understand
what pain really is
until you have lost it."
-anonymous

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Fifth Switch: Moving-on… Life must go on. Stand-up and smile.



‘Life goes on’ as they say. She/he is not your world, your world doesn't revolve only on him/her, move-on! The world still revolves even without you, so better catch up. You could have missed a lot of things while you’re busy emote-emote in there.

You thought it was all love, but it was all a mistake. But don’t deny that, that mistake made you smile, and left a special part in your life. That’s part of life, and that’s part of love.

Learn to forgive and forget, be thankful that you’ve known early that she/he is not really for you. There’s always a reason to smile. There’s your family and friends. They care for you too.

Let’s put that smile back on your face. We never know, maybe that bitter past will lead you to a sweeter future. Stand-up and learn to love again. Baka nandyan lang siya sa tabi-tabi.,di mo lang pinapansin o baka na-traffic lang.

Then by there, it will again flow to First stage. Then until here… Just hope that history won’t repeat itself. :)

"There is no remedy for love but to love more."
-Henry David Thoreau

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That’s the cycle of love. It’s impossible no one would ever experience atleast 2 of these. Love is a cycle. Love is a game we play. You may win, you may lose. It will rotate until you’ve found the person that is really meant for you, if you make yourself worthy for victory. :)

I don’t believe in destiny, for me, destiny is a choice. Learn to make the right choices. Learn from your mistakes. That’s part of love. There’s no such thing as a PERFECT LOVE, ONLY TRUE LOVE.

L♥ve is a game. Mahirap manalo, maraming pagsubok ang susuungin, maraming yarak ang daraanan. Walang kasiguraduhan, at minsan nawawalan ka na ng pag-asa. Pero di ka naman nag-iisa, lahat tayo ay makakaranas ng sakit, dahil ang totoo, walang perpektong pag-ibig.

Take the risk, if the person is worth it.

“Paano ka tatama, kung hindi ka tataya?”
-"Ted Hannah" by Parokya ni Edgar

Paano ka nga naman tatama kung hindi ka tataya, 'di ba?


♥ Mara Sheana MANiPON


*Gratitudes:

www.1-love-quotes.com/love_quotes_top_100.htm -for the love quotes & sayings
www.romantic-lyrics.com/lovequotes.shtml -for the love quotes & sayings
www.photobucket.com -for the photos